We Lost Another One. Serena “Hottentot” Williams is Engaged, and He’s White.

Last week I published an article titled “She’s Down With the Swirl”, pointing out high profile Black women who dated and married outside of their race. On the list was Venus Williams, her sister, Serena recently announced that she is engaged to Reddit co-founder, Alexis Ohanian.

I think I’m as liberal as the next, and while I recognize that we would not have had our first Biracial president if there weren’t people who dated outside of the Black race, I don’t like it. Yea I said it, in just 2 days it will be 2017 and even though I know I’m not supposed to say it in this day and age, it’s true. Why lie? I’m one who believes desegregation and legalizing interracial marriage destroyed the Black community. YES, I said it.

The more I watch Black men and women date and marry any race other than Black, the more I want to cry. We now live in a society where it is commonplace to see mixed families, where history books are being rewritten to erase the brutality that was enacted upon Africans brought to America. We live in a society where little Black babies are continuously being adopted by non-Black parents who neglect their real history and heritage.

Many of today’s Blacks seem to not even understand the struggle their ancestors endured to make sure we were treated fairly in this country. To many, Emmitt Till is a name from a disrespectful Lil Wayne song. These idiots are too blinded by what they think is good living to understand that Emmitt Till was a CHILD, a 14-year-old boy who DARED whistle at  a white woman. Not only did it get him kidnapped from his family’s home, nor brutalized, it left him dead from such a horrific disregard for human life that we are still shocked by the funeral photos today.

People like the members of the Bilderberg group (PLEASE look them up) have mastered the art of using movies, music, television and social media to dumb the world down and desensitize you to things that SHOULD outrage you. The more we are bombarded with images of Black men and women dying at the hands of white officers, and civilians alike, the more they let the bodies lie in the street, reminiscent of strange fruit swinging from the trees in the south; the more the world looks at things as if they are normal.

The more the news shows you savagery perpetrated by Black Americans you think Black people are savages. The media does not highlight the same behavior from other ethnicity.

As a Black person, you should not be able to turn a blind eye to these things. You can and should not ignore that in 2017 we are seeing too much of the same behavior, rhetoric and malice that has plagued Black people in America for centuries. Nothing has changed. Before we “progressed” with desegregation, the Black community was a strong community. Black people had generational wealth and/or businesses to pass down through the family. Black people owned property, the Black family was close and the father was in the home.

From desegregation, we moved to equal opportunity jobs and homes. This was mainly given to single women and the elderly. Black women were pulled into the women’s rights movement, though white women hadn’t been fighting for our rights all along. Suddenly, Black women were chasing the white woman’s dream of freedom from under her husband’s thumb. White women longed to work, to go to school and create lives outside of their families. Black women have been working all along, many were educated. Old school Black couples understood that it took teamwork for their families to survive. Black women did not have the luxury of cooking and cleaning while waiting for the kids to come home. They were busy being mammy’s, maids, seamstresses and the like.

The government scammed the Black man out of the household, telling the Black woman she didn’t need a man and it was perfectly acceptable to raise her children alone. Over the years, the government enacted a series of laws to restore “law and order.” Somehow, these laws seemed to target minorities more. To Black women it said, we will house and feed you and your children as long as you stay single, uneducated and loyal. Government assistance, like section 8, bars convicted felons from living in homes paid for by the government. Meaning if your children’s father is a felon, he can’t be in the home to raise his children if you get government assistance.

Furthermore, the trap of cash assistance ensures that if a woman on government assistance actually tries to better herself, she fails. If you actually get a job or  go back to school, your benefits can be cut immediately. The government, America and the old rich white men who run it, never meant for us to have a real chance at a productive life in America.

That’s why a woman like Serena Williams marrying a white man bothers me so much. The history of what was and is still being done to the Black race is not hidden. It’s public knowledge and can be researched with ones fingertips. The fact that white men have lusted after, and when not offered, taken the body of Black women for centuries is sickening. The idea that a Black woman would voluntarily lie down with one is mind-blowing. I look at paler Black people and literally SEE the oppressor in them. There have been times I’ve looked at a lighter skinned Black person and envisioned massa’ raping their ancestors.

Serena Williams spent six years growing up in one of California’s most dangerous areas, Compton. At the age of nine her family moved to Florida so she and her sister could attend a tennis academy. By the age of 10 her father had pulled her from national junior tennis tournaments partially to allow the girls to be normal kids and in part due to the racist remarks he constantly heard from other parents.

Throughout her career that has not changed. On social media, she is constantly scrutinized and mocked for being too dark and too manly. This beautiful Black woman has been called a gorilla and ape more than Michelle Obama, and that is a LOT. In 2001, she told USA Today that after the 2001 BNP Paribas Opening she had been repeatedly called “nigger.” Her father reported blatant threats from the crowd. Serena boycotted the event for the next 13 years, finally  appearing again in 2015. In 2014 Serena spoke out after Russian tennis federation president Shamil Tarpischev called her and Venus, the Williams Brothers, on Russian television. He was fined and subsequently, removed from his position. Last year when she was given the Sports Illustrated cover, the racist backlash was abhorrent.

Just earlier this year there were white women in Black face at the Australian Open and held a sign that said “keep calm and be Serena.” She has faced dehumanizing, hateful, race fueled comments her whole career and to my dismay, has even played into them. I was horrified when I saw this beautiful, incredibly talented woman trying to twerk for the camera. I was disgusted when Williams brushed off the incident where Caroline Wozniacki, Serena’s so-called “best friend” and fellow tennis player, came on the court with towels stuffed in the front and back, mimicking Williams shape in a match against Maria Sharapova.

Meanwhile while they degrade and ridicule, they stare at her in amazement as if she was a modern-day Sarah Baartman. They way white America obsesses over her shape and her ass, constantly sexualizing her as if her body type is in any way equal to or more important that her talent, is sickening. The way she seems totally happy to fit in, even when the joke is on her, is heartbreaking.

When news of her engagement broke one of my female friends said, I thought she was so pro Black and supportive of the cause. I laughed, knowing she had been down with the swirl, just like her sister. I told my friend, that Serena, just like Beyonce and many other Black celebrities of today, supports what’s trending and what will keep people supporting her and her businesses.

Okay Hottentot Williams, you’re happy when the jokes on you, cool. You’re okay with taking what should be generational Black wealth and giving it back to the oppressor, cool. You want to twerk for Black men and marry white ones, cool. You want to lie down with those who raped, beat and separated your ancestors? Cool, Just don’t ask for My support or respect.

Signed,

Conscious Black Woman