Love Lessons I learnt From My Mother

To date, my mother has taught me some of the most valuable lessons I could have ever learn when it comes to matters of the heart.
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My parents separated after a turbulent marriage when I was just 15. To say divorce was the best thing for them is an understatement. While my Father flung himself headfirst into a rebound fling that later resulted in another marriage. My Mother took a higher approach. She set off into the world and she found herself. Maybe it was my young impressionable age or my parent’s drastically different approaches to life and love that influenced me; but the older I’ve got, the more I’ve seemed to admire my Mother’s non-tolerance to bullshit within relationships. To date, she’s taught me some of the most valuable lessons I could have ever learnt when it comes to matters of the heart.

You Deserve The Best

Like most mothers do, mine is constantly telling me I deserve everything in the world. This is extremely important to remember in love. She worked hard to teach me and my brothers that we deserve nothing but the best, from education, to what to expect in a partner. If someone isn’t realising you’re true value and honouring it, then kindly show them the door. Once you realise your own self-worth, and how important you really are. You will attract someone who also shares this view of you.

You Can Leave At Any Time

Maybe it was the divorce that prompts this. But life is too short to stay in an unhappy relationship. Life is supposed to be about happiness, joy and laughter. Not misery. There’s no magic spell for happiness but the easiest way to stop being unhappy, is to cut the unhappiness out of your life. There is no excuse, nothing is holding you back but yourself. If you aren’t happy, then change it. It’s as simple as that.

Love Yourself First

Watching my mum be by herself for so many years and refusing to settle into a relationship for the sake of it showed me the true potential of an independent woman. She changed her career, got a degree and made a life for herself away from a relationship status. She rediscovered herself outside of marriage and it was truly inspirational. It taught me that you have to be comfortable and happy in your own skin, with your own life and then focus on your romantic pursuits. Because all else will fail if you aren’t truly happy with yourself first.

Don’t Forget Everyone Else

She always drilled into my head, “Boys may come and go but friends will stay forever.” And it’s true. Many of time I’ve thought I’ve found the one. Only for it to end in disaster and I thank my lucky stars I still had my family and friends by my side. There’s no reason to ever lose contact with anyone else in your life because you’ve found a relationship, some loves of our lives can be temporary, and it’s not worth losing our family and friends over.

Never Settle

If he doesn’t give you butterflies, if he doesn’t treat you well, if he isn’t honest or kind. Don’t settle. Don’t make excuses or bargain with yourself for the sake of a relationship. Never settle for anything less than you want and deserve. If you want someone who calls you, kisses you good night and likes to visit your family, then don’t settle for someone who won’t do this. Go out there and find your perfect package, because within reason it is possible and there’s no need to settle for anything less.

Money Doesn’t Matter

There’s a saying in our house, “I’d rather share a can of baked beans with someone I love, than have a five course dinner in Paris with someone I didn’t.” And it’s something I truly believe in. Money isn’t everything in life. It’s the people who matter most, someone can buy you the world but that will not buy you love and affection. It’s taught me to be humble, to appreciate people and not to be materialistic. Money can’t buy happiness and it certainly can’t buy love.

So maybe we should listen to our nagging Mothers about some things after all. At the end of the day, they love us more than anyone, and they’ve had their own fair share of experience.

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